Modern Dating Advice For Men & Women

Struggling With Dating - What To Do?

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Eddie Hernandez
Aug 19, 2025
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Why Is Dating So Hard For Men, Women

When it comes to dating, it can feel like a hopeless cause now more than ever. The amount of press, posts on social media, and countless Reddit threads can feel like everyone is going through the same struggle.

I have been helping people for over a decade with their dating efforts, ranging from first impressions and dating photos to lifestyle choices, where to meet singles, social skills, screening profiles, reading people, cutting off time wasters, and more.

Even if you can make significant advancements in these areas, its quite possible to still struggle with dating whether its getting likes, carrying conversations, going on dates or turning dates into relationships.

Dating is harder than ever, but that doesn’t mean you can’t date more effectively and reduce frustration with dating culture these days.


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Why Am I Struggling With Dating?

A lot of people who struggle with dating usually blame others for their difficulty dating, whether it’s dating apps, entire genders, dating culture, their city or themselves. It’s easy to but the blame on one area but that greatly diminishes all the variables that contribute to dating success.

Dating success can be broken out into buckets:

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