How To Write A Dating Profile
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Below is an overview on how to make a write a dating profile for apps like Hinge and Bumble.
There is additional nuance needed for advice and exceptions to the rules exist but that would easily triple the article triple in length.
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How To Write A Dating Profile: Dating App Advice
Coffee Meets Bagel is for big cities, Asian folks, 22–35ish
The League is for pretentious folks who think they are above other apps
Bumble is for narcissists, cheaters (Incognito mode)
Hinge is for relationships but also for those that are not ready to date.
Things That Make You Less Attractive To Men, Women
Client survey: With over a dozen years of working with singles in various capacities (photos, coaching, assessing various outlets to meet people, and image consulting), I always ask clients about traits/habits that make people (un)attractive. While many of these can cover both men and women, some are pretty common among smaller slivers of groups.
Paid Dating Apps vs Free Dating Apps
Paid apps are not better than free apps, they are not worse either
Paying for bells and whistles will not make you more attractive
Building a better profile, living a better life, making friends etc will yield a better ROI than boosts, roses, superswipes etc
How To Make A Good Dating Profile: Dating Profile Photo Tips
Use 4–6 unique photos (outfits, locations, poses)
Look approachable (smile, look at the camera, dress decently, practice good hygiene/grooming)
Photos should be taken within the last 2–3 years AND look like you now (hair length, hair color)
Avoid photos w/ kids; focus on you (you can list # of kids and age so people can sense lifestyle, availability)
Have good posture
Photos should complement bios/prompts, shouldn’t overlap/repeat info again
Group Photos On Dating Apps (Hinge, Bumble)
Group photos can provide social validation
Not needed if your photos are taken so it implies you have friends (poses, locations, framing)
Group photos can hurt if your friends are hotter than you (women) or taller than you (guys)
Group photos can hurt you if your friends look immature, lack diversity or are doing dumb shit in the background
Avoid people that can be viewed as potential competition
Am I Too Ugly To Date? Am I Too To Find Love?
Modern Dating by Eddie is written by Eddie Hernandez, dating coach based in San Francisco. He works with men & women seeking long-term relationships.
Dating Profile Tips — Prompts (Ideas, Examples)
Avoid things that are implied
Avoid being negative, jaded or stating what you don’t want
Avoid being vague, list specifics, multiple talking points per prompt
Avoid answers that are one-time things, things that happened to you or conflict with your intentions
Use 3 prompts (ignoring them suggests lack of effort or looking for a hookup)
Dating Profile Tips — Bios (Examples, Ideas)
Avoid repetitive information i.e. listing height in bumble bio when it’s already a dedicated field
Prompts and bios should cover who you are, what you seek and how you spend your time
No need to list company and title but recommend posting industry and function so people can get a sense of lifestyle, availability etc.
Don’t lie otherwise you can get banned; people will assume you are insecure or lying about other things
Online Dating Profile Tips For Men, Women
Make sure your social media info reflects your profile i.e. employment, location, age etc.
Fill out all questions that matter (read: star signs don’t matter to most people)
Avoid trying to sound cute, writing what you think others want to see
A dating profile is a reflection of yourself, offline, in-person. If you are boring in real life, your profile will be boring too
The more boring and cliche you sound/look, the harder it is to stand out.
How To Make A Good Dating Profile: Hinge
Use 6 unique photos (don’t repeat outfits, wardrobes)
You will be judged by your worst photo)
Caption photos with details; avoid photo prompts
How To Make A Good Dating Profile: Bumble
Use 4–6 unique photos
Avoid top photo/best photo (these apps will test all your photos and as a result, will use your worst photo first for a period of time)
List where you live (particularly on Bumble otherwise people will skip you as they think you are lying about location)
These items address one part of the equation — dating profiles. Even with the best profiles, you can still fail miserably with online dating if you lack discipline, don’t know how to swipe, suck at messaging, or are swiping outside your league.
Avoid things that are implied i.e. my kids/dogs are my world.
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