Low Effort Dating Profiles
Half-assed dating profiles, incomplete Bumble profiles, half-hearted Hinge profiles, low-effort dating app profiles female, male; vulnerability & rejection online dating,
Low Effort Dating Profiles Men, Women
The number of incomplete dating profiles is on the rise everywhere - for men, women, Hinge, Bumble, and even those seeking long-term relationships and marriage.
Lazy dating profiles seem to be the norm these days, with people using a few words in their bio, one-word prompt answers, and leaving important profile questions blank.
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Despite the lengthy options for ways to talk about yourself on apps like Hinge and also Bumble, people have become overwhelmed with choices, frustrated with immature questions and unsure whether to divulge private information about themselves that could be seen by exes, bosses, colleagues, neighbors, family neighbors and stalkers.
Incomplete Bumble Profiles
Bumble profiles often feel very incomplete given that users do not have to use and prompts and can get away with one photo.
Similarly, character minimums on bios allow for people to fill out this part of a profile with an emoji, one word or something similar. Users can create a profile in under 60 seconds.
When you couple this with the ambiguity of location-based profiles (using GPS) and travel mode, which masks locations, profiles can feel extremely inauthentic.
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Lazy Hinge Profiles
Hinge has attempted to improve where Bumble fails, by utilizing tools like AI to nudge users to fill out answers with more detail, effort.
It also requires users to add a location which on one-hand, reduces constant shifts and adjustments in location but also allows people to straight up lie about where they live whether they actually live in the suburbs and not in the city or changing location while traveling.
At least Hinge requires people to use 4-6 photos (depending on testing) which is a step up from Bumble, but is offset with the poor prompt options which feel more immature, silly and useless in terms of helping people convey who they are, how they spend their time and what they seek.
Why Do People Use Low-Effort Dating Profiles
There are many reasons why people don’t put effort into dating profiles, which include:
new profiles, will fill out later
privacy
see what other people do and thus match effort, detail
scared to be vulnerable, get rejected
Privacy is a valid concern but there is a fine line between low-effort and leaving out important information that you don’t want others to use. In the case of Bumble, one can use incognito mode to limit who can see their profiles.
With respect to new profiles, would you submit an incomplete resume or application for a job? If you don’t have time to fill out a simple dating profile, one shouldn’t bother with apps. There are templates out there for people to see what is asked so you can plan ahead.
As for the idea of matching the low-effort of others, lowering standards and efforts to match what you see is a poor strategy. You attract who you are, not what you seek. Your goal is not to attract everyone; your goal should be to aggressively filter incompatible people.
Lack Of Vulnerability On Dating Apps
The fourth reason is the one I want to focus on the most here. A large portion of people who have lazy profiles do it because of fear - fear of being rejected by their authentic self.
Rejection is a lot easier to accept if someone rejects an incomplete dating profile - a version of you that is not the real you. It hurts a lot more when you pour your heart and soul into a dating profile, as people internalize rejection by strangers way too much.
The ability to not give an F*** is key. The willingness to brush off rejection from a person and not let them hold control over you is necessary to avoid letting others dictate how you feel.
This doesn’t mean you should treat people terribly, be crude, be impolite or not be attentive/present but it does require a lot of self-awareness, ability to tempter emotions to avoid getting overwhelmed with the highs and lows of dating and dating apps.