Professional Matchmaking Advice: Do Matchmakers Work? Are They Worth It?
Do matchmaking services work? Should I hire a matchmaker? Matchmaking services pros & cons; professional matchmaker reviews, professional matchmaking advice
Should I Hire A Matchmaker? Are They Worth It?
In my line of work, I have worked with many individuals, have been hired by many dating service providers, been interviewed by magazines & newspapers, and have even be referred to by matchmakers, stylists, therapists and other dating coaches.
I turn down around 70% of inquiries for various reasons but unfortunately not everyone is as selective as me. There are a lot of predatory service providers in the matchmaking industry that use high-pressure tactics, make grand promises, or fail to disclose information about dates provided.
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What To Know Before Hiring A Matchmaker, FAQ’s
I have seen it all and before you throw down $5,000- $25,000 or more on a matchmaker, be sure to read this guide so you are better prepared to:
ask the right questions
get clarification on contracts and details
know who you might be set up on a date with
and understand the type of people who hire matchmakers
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Should I Hire A Matchmaker: How Much Do They Cost?
Prices vary but one can expect to pay anywhere from $2,000-$5,000 for most matchmaking services while other ‘high-end’ matchmaking services can cost $25,000 or more for people who either need more help (photos, styling, etiquette, personality) or have more preferences/deal-breakers.
Many matchmakers offer contracts which lays out a specific number of dates for a certain fee. Once that obligation is met, the contract has been executed. Most contracts operate on a 3-5 date offering for the arranged fee.
Matchmakers For Professionals, Executives
A lot of providers market themselves as matchmakers for professionals, matchmakers for executives, matchmakers for high net-worth individuals or something similar. I would approach these services with the utmost carerfulness as they often lack things like reviews, spend a lot of money and effort on SEO, have questionable testimonials, use stock photos and are great at manipulation tactics.
The amount you spend with a matchmaker does not correlate with success. You can find a great matchmaker by not spending a lot of money and it’s possible you can spend 5 figures and have nothing to show for it. This is particurly true if you think wealth will offset things like bad hygiene, unrealistic expectations, awful personality, and the like.
Professional Matchmaking Advice
Before you spend $1k, $5k, $10k or more on professional matchmakers, you should really read this advice to help you ask the right questions, know how to evaluate matchmakers, understand what they can or cannot do as well as be aware of contracts as they really make it hard to get refunds in case there is a disconnect with deliverables and the type of people you are hoping to get matched with.